1. I HATE HATE HATE washing my hands. I do it… but I hate it! I hate wet, cold hands.
2. I have 8 tattoos and 9 piercings, but I always want more.
3. I have double jointed fingers. My thumbs especially.
4. I had to learn karate as soon as I could walk. If you know my parents, it makes sense.
5. I joke about wanting to be a reality TV star… but I’m secretly dead serious about it.
6. I have no sense of direction. To get anywhere I feel like I have to pass my house to know where I’m going.
7. As we all already know, I am team Jen, fo’ life. And also team Coco.
8. I had never had strep throat, poison ivy, or had been stung by a bee until this year. And then all 3 happened to me.
9. I cannot stand those Jennifer Hudson commercials.
10. I can count my real honest-to-goodness friends on one hand and probably still have some fingers left over. As I think everyone can if they really sat down and thought about it.
11. I have a horrible time letting go of anything.
12. I get skeeved out by my self if I don’t have a fresh manicure or pedicure.
13. My favorite nail polish is Fiji by Essie.
14. My favorite animal is an elephant. And it’s also one of my tattoos.
15. I want to ride an elephant one day. It’s without a doubt on my bucket list.
16. I went sky diving for my friends 18th birthday and she made me jump out of the plane first.
17. I’ve convinced myself that if I eat mushrooms I’ll get sick. No idea if that’s true or not.
18. I’m not spoiled… just very, very loved by a very hard working, loving man. 🙂 And I love him dearly.
19. For my wedding, I didn’t have anything old or blue.
20. My favorite author is Stephen King but my favorite book is To Kill a Mockingbird.
21. My favorite color is a mix of green and blue.
22. Everyone used to make fun of me for being addicted to Facebook. They called it “RachFaceBook.” Well now it’s my job. So bite me.
23. In the past year I have become my own version of a New Jersey Housewife. I’m a New Jersey Apartmentwife.
24. I’m addicted to shoes, jewelry, handbags, dresses, jeans, fun tops, shoes, jewelry, handbags…. oh wait…
25. Anyone who still uses their middle name on Facebook can expect to be deleted from my list of friends within the next month. Do you know how many Lisa Anne’s I know?
26. Men who get plastic surgery really freak me out.
27. I consider my cat, The Dude, my first born. Sorry kids.
28. I had to teach my 1 year old Golden Retriever how to swim because he was afraid of the pool. It was like giving swim lessons to a toddler at a beach club.
29. I am truly, truly happy.
30. I become obsessed with things easily, Michael Flynn style. For now, it’s Barbie.
I’m not entirely sure where she came from or when she first appeared on the scene, but Olivia Wilde has made a huge splash in such a short period of time. I didn’t give her much thought until I saw her at the Golden Globes in that amazing floor sweeping chocolate Marchesa gown. She is simply stunning and I will admit, I have added her to the list of my girl crushes. When I walked past the magazine racks at King’s during my usual post work grocery shopping trip and saw her on the cover of Marie Claire I was delighted. The spread they did on her was amazing and she looked breath taking in every single image. I’ve picked this one as my favorite because I am a HUGE fan of behind-the-scenes footage of pretty much anything. The more I read on Olivia, the more I love her. If she wasn’t famous, or the fact that she was recently divorced from a prince, literally, you would genuinely think she was just another average jane doe. She is one of those people you find yourself wondering what it would be like to sit down and have a glass of wine with. I wouldn’t mind having the added advantage of being able to borrow her clothes either.
One day, about two years ago during one of mine and Matt’s leisurely strolls through Short Hills Mall we walked past the Jimmy Choo store and I literally stopped in my tracks. In the window were these sky high sandals that were electric blue and black zebra print and they wrapped all the way up the ankle. OK. I have to be honest… I just spent about 45 minutes trying to search for these shoes on the internet to show everyone (ha!) and I actually found the ad that I first saw them in! Note: I literally haven’t seen these shoes in over two years, I almost forgot what they looked like. Which brings me back to my story. I stood in front of the store, starring at this amazing ad, with this gorgeous blonde rocking these shoes like I wouldn’t even think possible. I may or may not have even had to wipe away a little drool from my mouth. Matt saw on my face how badly I wanted these very shoes on my feet. I wouldn’t have cared if they made me bleed. I wanted these shoes. The downside? They were only about 900 dollars… no big deal, right? We’ll even get 3 pairs… naht. Matt was doing great at work… but not that great. But he knew I was jonesing for beautiful shoes, and standing right there in front of the window, he said, “you want them? They’re yours.” and do you know what I said? ….. “No, that’s ok.” (NO… that’s ok!? Kill me). He offered again. I declined again. I knew we couldn’t afford it. From then on out I couldn’t even walk past that store because I was afraid I would burst into tears at the very sight of them. One day, a few months later, Matt brought it up again. And I was like you know what… I do want them. I don’t ask for much (this was two years ago… we all know i’m a big brat now ha). It could be my birthday/christmas/valentines day/easter/whatever-other-holiday-there-is present. So we went back…. and the freaking shoes were GONE. I never even got to hold them or try them on, I never got the chance to look them up to possibly find them online later. Which is why I had such a hard time searching for these shoes. Because believe me, I tried. And here we are… over two years later, and I google “Jimmy Choo Ads” because I have no idea what they’re called or how else I could possibly find them… and there they are. My beautiful, beautiful babies. Please, observe:
I literally have to fight back a few tears even now. Had I been the spoiled brat I am now, two years ago, I would own these bad boys. I have no where in the world to wear them, but whatever. I’d walk around our apartment in them and just feel fabulous.
The point being… when someone offers you something you REALLY TRULY want, will die without, must have and can’t imagine life without it… just take it. After all, you deserve it.
So I am a huge lover of music. I pretty much fell in love with Matt (my husband) the first time I saw him at Maple Place’s Variety show when I was in 5th grade as he awkwardly strummed his guitar and sang Everlong by the Foo Fighters so high Dave Grohl would be embarrassed. But dammit, he was good, and oh SO cute and I fell a little more in love every time he hit a high note. I still love to listen to him play his guitar and quietly sing along in our living room from time to time. I was raised being dragged to the Asbury Park boardwalk by my mother every time Bruce was practicing with the E-Street band at the Convention Center, we would sit on a blanket on the beach and just listen to the muted music flowing through the open windows. Music has been a big part of my life for years, and even though I have almost no musical talent myself (I did play the flute all throughout middle school and can still read music) I can appreciate good music as much as the next guy.
Years ago I was introduced to this band, Lynam, by my boss from PNC Bank Arts Center. It’s a very, very long story how he found them, but long story short: Bon Jovi’s priest pretty much discovered this Alabama band and brought them to New Jersey. We’ve been friends ever since and I am a HUGE fan of their music. They are 80’s hair metal meets modern country rock and what a fantastic love child that turned out to be. This is their biggest single, Tanis. It’s a treat for the ears, so enjoy!
Another band I must tell everyone about is The Gay Blades. I know, with a name like that most people wouldn’t give this band a second listen, but they are really worth it. It’s made up of just two guys, Quinn (drummer) & James (guitar & vocals). It’s important to know there’s just two guys when you actually listen to their music. They’re so entertaining you would think they had about 9 people in the band. I worked with Quinn years ago at my favorite place in the whole wide world, Michael Angelo’s. And yes, if I could still work there on weekends, I would! But that’s beside the point. This song is called N.H.D.N and it’s one of my personal faves! At a Gay Blades concert one time James insisted that the whole crowd clapped along to one of their songs… I wasn’t clapping. He literally got off stage, walked through the crowd, and called me out for being “too cool to clap.” These guys are awesome.
This music isn’t for everyone, I get that, but it’s definitely worth listening to at least once. The personalities these guys have are all larger than life and it definitely comes out in their music. Also, while you’re at it… check out this totally awesome band Sudzert. The lead singer is quite a hottie. 😉
Anyone who knows me knows I have some sick obsession, borderline girl crush on Jennifer Aniston. The day Brad broke her heart, I swear a little bit of me died too. I will buy any magazine with her face on the cover, especially if it’s a story about how her and Brad are sneaking around behind Angie’s back. I will admit I am one of those crazy tabloid readers that believe 98% of what I read. BUT, only in US and People, all those other tabloids are for the birds. I have become so consumed with the well-being of Jen, (yes, we are on a first name basis) I have developed a bitter, bitter hatred for Angelina…and Brangelina. I literally won’t even watch a movie that she is starring in. Imagine the moral battle I was having with myself when The Tourist came out. Johnny Depp….. BUT Angelina? I couldn’t do it. My feelings against “Angie” were so strong that I couldn’t stomach her for 2 hours. I won’t even let Matt watch movies she’s in. I know, it’s psychotic and I’m sure he does, but he knows better than to tell me.
So anyway, the point here is that I am a huge Jen fan. I route for her in everything and I want her to be happy. The other day I was in my supervisor’s office and we somehow stumbled on to the topic of who she’s dating now. Jennifer is an amazingly talented woman and incredibly beautiful. When I am her age I will probably be about 30+ pounds heavier with really rashy Irish looking skin (thanks Mom). She’s just all around flawless. She needs to be with someone on her level. One of my biggest pet peeves is couples that don’t match. There is nothing worse than a gorgeous girl dating a short, stocky, douche bag. Or a really handsome guy with some train wreck on his arm. Although I’m sure Justin Theroux is just a delight, in my professional opinion, he does not match Jen, at all. My coworkers seem to share this opinion, so every single day we have been coming to each other with ideas on who we think Jen should be with. If we were celebrity match-makers, we would be REALLY bad at it! Every single guy we come up with is either not up to her standards (err… our standards for her), or married, and happily. But, a girl can dream. So below are some of our top picks for Jen’s future hubby and we want your feedback! Keep in mind, we are well aware some of these guys are taken, but in a perfect world, they’d be taken by our Jen.
Well, wedding season is finally upon us. This is secretly my favorite time of the year. Out of all the pictures people post on Facebook, wedding pictures are my favorite to stalk! As many of you know, I got married last summer and spent the entire year leading up to my wedding in intense planning mode. I graduated college and quit my bullshit job as a salon receptionist all within the same month. From then til August I did not have the mental capacity to think of anything else other than my wedding. I was not quite a Bridezilla, but now, looking back on it, I should have been.
There are a few tips I want to pass along to future brides to make sure they avoid the blunders I encountered leading up to my big day. I had every single wedding magazine you could possibly imagine and the pages in each one were basically ripped and worn out by the amount of times I flipped through them. I studied these magazines like they were my college text books. (Ok, let’s be honest, I don’t think I ever even owned a college text book, but you know what I mean). I was certain that if I memorized the advice the wedding gurus had been dishing out in these magazines, nothing would go wrong on my big day. Boy oh boy, how wrong I was! Things are going to go wrong no matter what you do. The key is to not let them ruin your big day.
Let’s start from the very beginning; choosing your bridal party.
Your bridal party should be made of the people you love more than anything in the world, and who, more importantly, love you more than anything in the entire world. These women need to be happy for you and truly want to take part in what is going to be the happiest day in your life. Right off the bat, if you ask someone to be in your wedding and they don’t seem excited for the opportunity, they literally are not excited. People like this view being in your wedding as a chore and just another stupid thing to waste money on. And to be honest, they probably are not happy for you. Anyone like this is going to be toxic to your wedding. They need to get the axe asap. They could be one of your oldest friends, but if they’re not happy for you, why do you want them there? They’re going to bring you down on your day and that is the last thing you need. Next up, the bridesmaid who thinks this is her wedding day. That bridesmaid needs to be put in her place right away. She doesn’t look good in blue, short dresses make her legs look fat, her hair looks better down because she has big ears, we can’t have your bridal shower on this day because I’m going to a Lady Gaga concert. Whatever it is, stop it in its tracks. You let that person get away with one thing and they’ll get away with everything. Remember, this is YOUR day. Simply tell your bridesmaid she can wear whatever she wants on HER day. If she doesn’t like it, tell her she can wear whatever she wants as a guest of your wedding and be done with it. Thankfully I didn’t have any divas in my bridal party but I have heard horror stories and that’s how I would handle it. Also, there is no rule that your bridal party needs to be best friends with each other. BUT, they do have to get along for the sake of the bride’s sanity. There is nothing worse, being a bride, than getting a million phone calls from each one of your bridesmaids complaining about the other. It’s not like you’re going to be stuck on an island with these girls for the rest of your lives. My rule of thumb for any bridal party is this; the maid of honor will know what the bride wants and what is in the bride’s best interest. Think about it, she’s the maid of honor and she’s clearly been chosen for that position for a reason. At some point, showers and bachelorette parties become about the bridesmaids and what is easiest and most convenient for them. Somewhere along the line the bride kind of becomes forgotten about. So as a bride, just keep your MOH by your side and just keep telling her what you want. She’ll make it happen. And if your bridesmaids have a problem with that, well, you know what to tell them.
Ok, next stop… vendors.
This one may seriously be the most important to pay attention to, because if these people screw up it could really suck all of the fun and excitement out of your day. My mom owns her own newspaper, The Link News, and because of that she knows a lot of people and has a lot of good contacts. She was able to work some things out with a few friends of hers and save us some money on a few things. In certain aspects, this can be a great thing. Just make sure you’re cutting the right corners. Her friend was able to get us a deal with our wedding invitations, and that worked out perfectly. Our invitations were one of my favorite things about my wedding! They were simply stunning. We also used some of her connections for our wedding favors. Since we got married at the beach we thought it would be cute to give out beach towels with our names and wedding date embroidered on them to all of our guests, and for the men, golf towels. My mom’s friend Howard pretty much took care of those for us, and he did a great job. Everyone loved the towels. Actually, our guests liked them so much there were none left over for me to use. Matt and I also had our reception at Branches Catering, which was originally Squires Pub, where my parents got married. They did an amazing job with our wedding! As far as I was concerned, everything went off without a hitch because I had such great wedding planners who took care of everything for me. Unfortunately, I wasn’t this lucky with every vendor we used. My number one suggestion is make sure you are 100% completely comfortable with every vendor you are going to use. If there is any doubt that they might not be the best fit for you and your wedding, do not use them! The one thing I kept seeing over and over in wedding magazines was the suggestion to ask your florist for pictures of weddings they’ve worked on in the past. My florist ended up being someone who advertised with my mom, and who was supposedly going to give us a great deal. On my first meeting I asked them for pictures and would you believe they responded with, “oh we don’t do that here; it’s a waste of time.” Now I know they don’t do it because they don’t want any evidence left behind! I sucked it up because it was a friend of my mother’s and we were on a tight budget. How badly could they really mess flowers up anyway? Well, the answer is a lot. I brought in a picture of the bouquet I wanted for myself along with a very detailed description and the exact name of every flower. They asked me if I wanted a throw away bouquet for the reception, I said, of course! (I love all that cheesy wedding cliché stuff). At our ceremony we had two mini pillars at the corners of the stage with big beautiful cascading bouquets on top of them. At our reception, they were supposed to be the centerpieces on my parent’s table and Matt’s parent’s table and an employee from the flower shop was supposed to transport them to Branches themselves. Well, come my wedding day, my bouquet looked NOTHING like the picture, pretty as it was, I was not provided with a throw away bouquet (that yes, I did pay for) and the two beautiful bouquets from the beach, well they never made it to the reception. So at my reception, we were two center pieces short. This is not a post about me bitching, it’s just for me to convey to all of my readers how very important it is to form a good relationship with your vendor ahead of time. I had a gut feeling about this mom and pop flower shop, and I truly wish I followed my instincts. Looking back on my wedding day, I was most upset about the flowers and the limos…or should I say buses? Another one of my mom’s friends. The owner of this limo company was a good guy with good intentions, but he had a really small selection of “limos” to choose from. I had a gigantic bridal party and really had my heart set on a party bus for everyone to relax in while we weren’t in the spot light. The ride from the beach to the reception site was only a few minutes so a big party bus seemed like a waste of money. We opted for a bus…it was supposed to be like a party bus, but it was literally just a bus. Nice and fancy on the outside, but on the inside it had standard bus seating. It sucked. Everyone had to sit in twos and there was no champagne or anything flowing in celebration of our wedding. Oh, and our bus driver got lost on the way to the reception. That was fantastic. I did not like this guy from the start each other. So again, the most important thing to do is form a good relationship with your vendors before you decide to do business with them. Ask for pictures; ask to take a ride on their limos, or buses. Just ask for as much in advance as you can to get a good idea of the people and business you’re working with. Even if they’re willing to knock 20% off a price, if you don’t feel comfortable with them, it’s just not worth it.
Those were the two main things that really bugged me even after my wedding was over, my two main regrets if you will. There were other things that went that day… there were people fighting with each other, some people weren’t on the seating chart and had nowhere to sit, there were some token drunk guests, you name it, it went wrong. But thanks to much wonderful wedding planners at Branches, I literally had no idea. They took care of everything! Every guest had a place to sit, every table had a beautiful centerpiece, they even asked Matt and I what our favorite drinks were ahead of time so there was always one waiting for us. They are truly fantastic at what they do, and the food, oh my god. To die for. Oh and did I mention we had an amazing DJ as well? Marcus, from Simply Professional DJ’s, everyone should use him. And he was also a friend of the family. OH MY GOD, I almost forgot about the second most important thing!! (The first, I’ll get to in a minute). The photographer! Make sure you love them too. The pictures (and video) you have will be your memories of that day for the rest of your life. You don’t want your wedding pictures to look like some JC Penny family photo. Your wedding pictures should literally take your breath away, and mine did! Our photographers, Darren and Nino, were the absolute best there is! And yup, they’re actually family, not just family friends! After I saw my wedding pictures I told Darren over and over again I would have literally paid thousands of dollars for the work he did. Below is my absolute favorite picture they captured from our wedding day. At the end of the night the people at Branches surprised us by opening up an entire room that was filled with the most amazing desserts. The took Matt and I and our families in separately before it opened to our guests. In the middle of the room there was a big screen TV playing a slide show of photos from our wedding. When we first walked in, this picture was up on the screen. At first I thought, well that’s an amazing picture, but why are they showing someone else’s wedding pictures at my wedding? And then I took a closer look and I literally gasped, out loud. It was me! Everyone just stood there in silence for a minute and stared at this picture up on the screen in awe. I had never seen anything quite like it. Matt and I had the picture turned into a huge portrait that now hangs up in our living room. Like I said, you’ll have those pictures for the rest of your life. Make sure they’re worth looking at. The one below is too small to really get that WOW effect, but imagine it on a larger than life screen.
In the end, all I can tell people is to feel comfortable with every decision you make. That thing they say about finding the perfect wedding dress, when you try it on you’ll know it’s the one… that is 100% true. You won’t believe it until it actually happens to you, that moment where you see yourself in the mirror for the first time and you’re like, wow, I look good, this is the dress I have to wear! It’s not like Big Foot or Unicorns, that moment really does exist. And when you find that dress, and you know it’s the one, don’t let anyone else try to talk to you out of it. If your Grandmother doesn’t like it because you can see the tattoo that covers your back, tough. She’ll get over it when she sees you walking down the aisle. If you can’t afford the dress, cut corners somewhere else. I would have given up flowers in general to be able to wear the dress I wore on my wedding day, or even the DJ. I would consider hooking an iPod up to big speakers if it meant getting to wear that dress. Another great money saving tip is to get the sample dress. It cuts about 50% off the price. It’s usually a size 10 or something crazy like that, which will require more fittings and alterations, but you will still end up saving a bundle on it in the end. Like I said, cut corners somewhere else, not on your dress. My dress was the single most important thing to me on that day, and my favorite thing about my wedding (besides, ya know, the whole getting married to my best friend thing).
Weddings are stressful enough as it is. But had I done some of these things from the beginning I think it would have saved me a lot of head ache in the end. I hope these tips end up helping another bride out before she ends up calling the whole thing off. I’m not the most organized or focused person in the world so a blog like this probably would have been somewhat helpful. There’s so much more I want to touch on, but these are the key things that stick out in my mind. Overall, surround yourself with people who love you and your husband-to-be. Nothing but good vibes leading up to and on your big day! Cut out all of the negativity ahead of time, and most importantly, just enjoy yourself! This is supposed to be the happiest day of your life, remember that! Don’t sweat the small stuff. As long as none of your guests get drunk and set your reception site on fire you should be good to go.
There comes a point in every human being’s life when they find out one integral part of their childhood is a complete lie. We’ve all been there; that earth shattering day when your bratty older sibling spills the beans about how Santa Clause isn’t real. Or the day you turn 16 and you become smart enough to realize Sparky, the family dog, didn’t go to Florida to retire in the warm weather with your Great Aunt Beatrice. My story is a little different. I did eventually find out Santa Claus was just a chubby relative in a red velvet suit. My cat, Darth, did not move to a special pet hospital where he could be given the extra care and attention that he needed. (I was literally in college when my parents pulled that one on me, and I believed them!) This story, the real story about how I found out my entire childhood was lie, is very differrent. And yes, you can blame it all on my mother and father.
Most children grow up with one thing in common; the beautiful gift of knowing their own parents would never lie to them. Unless, of course, you’re talking about my parents. I’d be willing to bet one out of every 3 people go through a phase where they’re convinced they are adopted. Your parents would sit you down, wipe your tears away, and whole heartedly reassure you that you are their very own flesh and blood. You’d have a very 7th Heaven moment, hug it out, and move on with your happy lives. When I was young, too young to even remember this, my mother came in to my room and found me sobbing on my bed. When she asked what was wrong I had to fight back my tear to ask her if I was adopted. I’m not sure why I got it into my head that I was adopted, but I’ll just blame it on my older brother Shay. I was waiting for the hug, for the confirmation that I was the result of my parent’s love for each other and no one else’s. But that is so far from what actually happened. My mom stared at me, and all that came out of her mouth was a blunt, yes. YES?! So it’s true. I was adopted! She went on to tell me that my real mother was Susie, the woman who owned the Chinese restaurant down the street that we went to for dinner at least once a week. I was even born with a different name, Ching-Chang-Cha-Wah-Chen. Yup. Oh but don’t worry, she included my brother too, wouldn’t want anyone to feel left out. Shay was really a young boy born in Mexico with the birth name, Paco. I threatened to run away once and my mom actually packed me a little bag, took me out to the front yard and waited for an Asian family to drive by. That was the one and only time I ever pulled a stunt like that. So let’s just say, I had no room to be surprised when I was 17 and found out an enormous chunk of my childhood was an absolute lie.
Down the street from my house there’s a cemetery with a well known gravestone plotted there; a large stone monument with an old woman carved into it. The tombstone alone is enough to give you nightmares, but the story my parents tacked onto it is enough to make sure you couldn’t even fall asleep at night.
Being that my father used to be a cop in Oceanport, his story was pretty credible. Looking back on it I’m not even entirely sure how the story originated, but this is what it was. Buried beneath the mound of eerie stone was a man who was murdered. My dad, being on duty at the time, was the first one to arrive at the scene. He found the victim lying in his bed with his throat slit open. (Sorry for the graphic details, but keep in mind I was but a child when I heard this story for the first time myself). The murder weapon was a butcher knife from the kitchen which was later found stashed away in his wife’s dresser drawer. Bingo, the wife was the murderer they were looking for. Unfortunately, there was just not enough evidence to back up the case, and the wife was never convicted. Over time she became crazy, literally insane. She would sit in the graveyard all day and night just watching the tomb stone, waiting for other mourners to pass by and attack them. She was convinced everyone was out to get her. Legend had it, she would sick next to his grave stone with that exact butchers knife clutched in her old, wrinkly, bony fingers.
My family had a karate school that was located in the next town over from ours, and to get there we had to drive past this frightening cemetery. This particular tombstone was plotted close enough to the street where you could see it from the road. One Thursday night on the way to a class, one of my parents had the genius idea to drive through the graveyard to scare my brother and me. And scare us, they did. They crept past the tombstone at a whopping .5 miles an hour while Shay and I hid under the backseat screaming and crying. Luckily, the Old Lady in the Grave, as she was eventually known as, was nowhere to be found. At this time, my mother had a gigantic Mitsubishi van that could easily (but not comfortably) hold about 20 people. After the class was over and my parents told everyone about our crying episode, everyone wanted to see this tombstone for themselves. We obviously had some tough guys in our class who would “show that old lady a thing or two” if she tried to pull anything. Right….ok. We piled everyone into my Mom’s van and took off the graveyard. Same thing, my dad drove about .5 miles an hour and everyone shoved themselves out of the windows trying to get a closer look. And again, the old lady was not there. Phew! I tried to play it cool. I was what? 6 years old? I didn’t want to look like a baby in front of all the older kids. But inside, I was counting my lucky stars that the old lady had called it a night early. I was hoping with everything I had in me that that would be the end of it. We would all go home forget about it and it would all end there. I was a fool.
Everyone became OBSESSED with “The Old Lady in the Grave.” Everyone at our karate school made it their mission to find this old lady and just get a glimpse of her, or maybe torment her a little bit? Either way, they wanted a pieced of the Old Lady in the Grave. My parents, being the wonderful parents they are, decided to take a class trip to the graveyard. It was organized well in advance and became known as “Fright Night.” The title speaks for itself. A few weeks later we piled about 25 or more people into my mom’s big blue astro van and headed down to the graveyard. I was sitting in the front seat with my cousin Rickie, who is about 10 years older than me. I was 6 or 7, he was well into his teens. We were both shitting our pants. I cried, I did not want to go. But alas, I was thrown into the front seat of the van against my will crammed into the front seat with Rickie. We drove past the graveyard nice and slow inching our way into the far entrance on the opposite side of where this dreadful tombstone was located. The anticipation was literally killing me. I was already crying… I think I started crying before we left the karate school. My parents are evil. As we made our way across the cemetery someone shouted out, “Is that her?!” I heard someone else yell “there she is!!!” I had my eyes closed, I didn’t want to see her. That’s when I heard it… someone gasping, “Is that a KNIFE?!” That was it. Under the seat I go. Long story short, by the end of that car ride everyone was fighting to get a spot under the seat. She chased our car with her butchers knife, threatening all of our lives. You would think that would be enough to scare the hell out of all of us! But no, we became addicted. We had to see what this old lady was all about. We made several trips throughout my childhood to that cemetery, and would you believe it, she was there every time? And it only got worse. She would throw things at our car at first, a rock or two. Then after the fourth or fifth time she would attack our car with her knife. One night she was smart, she had a car there. She chased us through 4 towns before we finally lost her. This literally continued every now and then until I was in high school. One night, my brother took a group of his friends out for what we called “Fright Night.” There was about five or six of them stuffed in the car. By now my mom’s big blue astro van had gone to car heaven so our trips became much smaller. It was the usual experience; we drove slowly through the graveyard, she was there, she was angry, she chased us. She tried as hard as she could to run alongside our car, (even though she was chasing us, my parents refused to go above 15 miles an hour). At this point, we were all freaking out. My next-door neighbor, Albert, was calling MY mom, mommy. Screaming at the top of his lungs, “go faster mommy!!” And once again, we eluded her. At the end of the night my brother and his friends end up back at my parent’s house for the usual post Fright Night sleep over trying to get a hold on their nerves. We’re all hanging out in the front room when we hear something tapping on our front window. My brother’s friend, Marty, opens the front blinds and what do we see? An old lady, tapping on our front window, with a butchers knife. It was absolutely terrifying. After a long struggle, my father eventually “chased her off of our property.” This experience was so terrifying that (without mentioning any names) about 3 of those kids slept with their parents for weeks. That was the last time we ever did a Fright Night. It just became too close for comfort at that point; she now knew where we lived. We had to stop tormenting her, she was obviously crazy!
At every sleepover I ever had I would bring up that story when it came time to share ghost stories and scary stories. By the end of my story all of my friends would end up in a huddle, holding each other for comfort. I have a few friends that can’t drive past that graveyard without speeding. Basically, everyone who knew me, my brother, my parents, or anyone who had ever been “lucky enough” to take a Fright Night trip knew this story and knew the Old Lady’s reputation.
Well, the point of this story has still yet to be touched on so let me get to it. When I was a senior in high school my dad and I took a trip to New York with his friend to see our friend’s band, Lynam, play a show. We took the trip together in a small limo, my dad, Lou, me, and the band which included Mark, David, and Jacob. Halfway home my dad and Lou were having some random conversation that I wasn’t really paying much attention to until I heard the words, “Yeah, Rachel believed that most of her life, until a few years ago I think.” In my mind, the tires of the limo came to a screeching, smoking halt and the world stopped in its tracks. “Believed what?” I asked. The words that followed changed my entire life. “About the Old Lady in the grave, you believed that was real forever.” Excuse me, what?! My face turned a lovely shade of red and I felt like cartoon smoke was about to pour out of my ears. And just like that, my whole childhood came crumbling down around me, lie by little lie. The rest of the ride home I learned how throughout the years different people were “playing” the role of the Old Lady, but even before that, there was no murder in Oceanport. I should have known better, the most exciting thing to ever happen in Oceanport was a horse escaping from the stables in the racetrack. There was no husband hating, butcher knife toting, crazy old lady running around the backstreets of Oceanport. It was more like my cousins, Paul, Dave, Charlie, or Shaun dresses in a moo-moo and a wig chasing our car through a graveyard. Looking back on it… it was a little strange the Old Lady has legs like a gazelle.
Why my parents decided to play such a cruel joke on us and keep it going for so long, I will never know (or understand). My mom and dad certainly wouldn’t win any parent’s of the year awards for me after that little stunt. It’s not even that they took us through a graveyard and convinced us that some crazy elderly woman was trying to kill us…it was more the fact that they lied to us about it. As much as I hate them for that, I cannot deny that it was a genius prank. When I have children that are old enough to be utterly terrified by something like the Old Lady in the Grave, you can put money on it that I will be taking trips through that graveyard in the driver’s seat with my kids in the back of my own car. I posted a picture below so everyone can envision exactly how frightening this tombstone actually was on its own, and even more frightening it can be when you think that woman carved into the side is an insane murderer. Enjoy 🙂
I recently started a job for an up and coming shoe designer. While my main job was supposed to be monitoring our web business and customers, my supervisors couldn’t help but notice my passion for social media. And when I say passion, I obviously mean sick obsession. I am now fully in charge of our twitter and facebook accounts, which, I have to be honest, I love! We have a blog at our company and for some reason I can’t quite put my finger on, the blog scares the hell out of me. I have purposely been avoiding any and all conversation about updating our less than perfect blog since I started here. There’s no pressure with twitter, 140 characters, what can go wrong? Who can you offend? How many type-o’s can there be? Facebook, people love what you write no matter what it is if they love your company. In their eyes, you can do no wrong. But blogs… so much room for error, so much room for people to hate what you say! Like I said, blogs just scare me.
I’ve tried to blog in the past… it seemed like the cool thing to do. I succumbed to peer pressure of the trendy blogging world. I won’t try to kid you guys, or myself, I’m no blogger. I copy other blogger’s layouts, I talk about what other people are talking about, I find it hard to find my own “voice.” This, the more I think about it, is so weird. Growing up my mom worked for her brother’s newspaper and my older cousin had a column called “Chatter by Charlie” and readers loved it. Eventually he got a little too old and decided to pass the reigns down to me. I was in 5th grade when I started writing this column which appeared weekly in The Atlanticville. My uncle so cleverly titled the column “Ramblin’ with Rachel” and I became an overnight (local) celebrity. Well maybe not a celebrity, but people knew who I was. And I was nine years old, in my mind; I was as cool as they come. My blog was not exactly tabloid material or even blog worthy; I literally wrote about my day. I was 9… how exciting could it be? I would write about sleepovers with my best friends Cat and Jenny, or going out to dinner with my family for my older brother’s birthday. Would you believe that I got fan mail? People actually enjoyed reading about my day. As I got older, though, much like Charlie I started to lose interest in my own column and eventually just gave it up all together. It wasn’t until I was in 8th grade and September 11th happened that I decided to write one final column. The topic of which caused quite a stir at my middle school; how poorly my school handled the situation. I did not intend the column to come across that way, it was not my intention to bash my school or the teachers or even our principal. I was young, and I wrote what I felt, and at that time I felt like my school really let us down. It caused such a stir amongst the school staff that for the rest of the year, I could not get in trouble because everyone was afraid I would write about them in the paper. I purposely tried to get detention on several different occasions with no luck. Let’s just say, the rest of 8th grade was a breeze.
During high school I wrote a few CD reviews for my now husband’s band. I think that is what eventually broke me of writing. During high school I had a BIG crush on this guy. When he reached out to me to write this CD review for him I thought I had died and gone to Heaven. However, I was so nervous because I had never written anything even remotely close to that before, something with substance and purpose that someone is actually looking forward to reading. By the time Thursday came around and the first story went to press, I had freaked myself out so badly and convinced myself it was the worst piece of writing anyone had ever came up with, I didn’t even want to go to school! I remember trying to fake sick and my mom was not having it. She eventually forced me out of the door with my figurative tail tucked between my legs. Between homeroom and first period I was walking down B hall when I saw two of the band members sharing a newspaper walking towards me. Before they had a chance to notice me I ducked into the nurse’s office and hid there until they passed by and were clear out of sight. To this day my husband reassures me that there was nothing wrong with the article and that I did a great job, but writing those articles for them really ruined me. I’m sure it had all to do with the fact that I had the world’s biggest crush on this guy and did not want to look like an idiot, rather than my actual writing, but it was enough to freak me out for the rest of my life. I never wanted to put my writing out there for anyone to read and judge ever again. Even throughout high school and college, handing in a paper for class gave me anxiety. I was a great writer; I received A’s in my writing classes where the one professor gave everyone C’s across the board. I had nothing to worry about but I could not find that confidence in my writing that I used to have.
But… I digress. The point of this blog is to get enough practice that I feel more comfortable writing a blog for my company that people are actually going to see and read and want to take something from it. So on this blog, I’m simply going to write about what I know. I’m not going to pretend I’m a fashionista or a music guru. I will simply write about my life and my experiences, what makes me tick and what makes me laugh. I will graciously accept any comments or critiques with open arms. Most importantly, I just hope you enjoy it.
Until next time. xoxo